Living with a person with an autism spectrum disorder is like seeking the end of the rainbow to find the golden coins. When sunlight strikes raindrops in front of spectators, and as a myth, the rainbow is to find that treasure. The rainbow has beautiful colors and bright on a rainy day, so it is the autism you can experience some good days and not some good days.
As a parent or caregiver, we ask the question “is it going to get cure” “are things are going to get better,” or the famous one “I’m I going to be able to handle it.” Caregivers can experience different behaviors, emotional rollercoasters, lack of social interaction, frustration, and anger. It is ok to feel and share all of these. Like the rainbow, we can overcome these experiences, and we can make them better.
You are not alone; as the increase of individuals diagnosed with autism continues to rise the same way, its services continue to grow. It is essential that when you are seeking these services for your dependent relative, YOU TAKE CARE OF YOUR SELF! Most of the statements that I heard are “I don’t have time for myself anymore,” I’m a terrible parent,” This is all my fault,” etc… I understand the struggle that most caregivers go through, and the answer for these statements: you are not a bad parent; it is not your FAULT, and let me help you give you tips on how you can make time for yourself.
- Find a support group or develop a support system.
- Practice mindfulness (you can do this every day at any time)
- Take a break for yourself by doing something that you love.
- Take care of your body mentally, physically, and emotionally.
- Talk to someone to help you “Tag Team.”
As a human being, you must know that we go through the 5 stages of grieving when our children get diagnosed with autism and when you start seeking help for them, you should do the same for yourself. I understand how difficult it is and how overwhelming it can get, and we are here for you.
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Your partner in restoring inner peace,
Aidimar Torres, Resident in Counseling